Prenups in the past

 

Recently there have been several high profile affairs and divorces in the media. No one really can explain why a person would be unfaithful.  Could someone explain to us ,why a person would need a "Prenuptial" agreement prior to getting married? Isn't marriage about sharing and building a future together. That is the concept our great-grandparents had when it came to marriage. What has happened, why so many prenuptial agreements? Are you telling that person from the beginning, you do not trust them or that you feel insecure in your relationship? My wife and I discussed this matter as we posted this blog, "What is the real reason behind the Prenuptial"? I have always expressed to my wife, whatever I have, she is entitled to it and much more. And she has expressed the same to me, the same comments. Do we have more than others, in some ways "Yes",and in other ways "No". But we have each other. This is more valuable to us than money,investments or Fortune 500 businesses. We stand by "Till death do us part" and not "Till the judge gives me my half".

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Making Up..........

We have several friends that ask the question, "Do you guys ever argue?" I always tell them that we have discussions. Sometimes these discussions become heated, but, we don't get to the point of where we arguing. We always make it a point to listen to the other person's point of view. The discussions may last for a long period of time, but we make every effort  to give each other time to speak their mind and express themselves. In a marriage, it is important that each person has a voice and the opportunity to express themselves, whether you agree or not. We have learned to agree to disagree. Then comes the making up. You can do this part however you choose and without instructions from us. Signed the love birds.

Package Deal

Whenever my wife and I met, I informed her that I had a son and we came as a package deal. She reminds me of it today. But the thing I have noticed is that he is more like her, than he is like his natural mom. Going into a new relationship with a child is an interesting situation for anyone. You never know how that person will receive the child. Also a question that a person may ask themselves, is "When is a good time for my child and this new person in my life to meet?" Another question is, Does this person want a ready made family? The answers to all the questions can be difficult, but one thing the person you are interested in spending you life with must know, You and the child come as a package deal. If anyone disagrees or has any comments, feel free to share them with me.

The grass is not greener.

I have a friend who is going through his second marriage. Whenever we are talking, he tells me how he admires what my wife and I have accomplished. To me it really is not a big deal, but to him it seems to hold a special meaning. One day I asked him what happened with him and his first wife. He simply said, he thought the grass was greener on the other side. He was a person who thought things was going to be different with the women he cheated with outside his home. He felt that life was going to be one big party that would not stop. It was only after a few months that he realized that he had the same obligations in a serious relationship, as if he was married. He was required to be romantic, date and spend time with those other women. Now in hindsight, he realizes that the grass is not greener on the other side. Do you know anyone in a similar situation? Can you relate?

Marital Teamwork

I was having a discussion with one of my co-workers and they were surprised that I cooked the family meals. They could not understand why a man would cook the family meals. The first thing I explained to them was that I enjoyed cooking. It was one of my favorite hobbies. Next, I informed them that my wife enjoyed the laundry. and Finally, I explained that we had agreed early in our marriage to share other household chores. I was once told " that many hands make light work". To this day, that concept still seems to apply. I guess we have established "Marital Teamwork". This again has been one of the reasons for the success of our marriage and relationship. Are we the only couple that fits this profile? Maybe you could share some feedback.

Always and forever

I was speaking with a friend of mine, and he asked "how do you, do it"?  I asked what did he mean, and he replied, "how do you stay interested in your wife"? I informed him that I continue to see her as the day I met her. I also continue to treat her the way I did when I met her. We continue to date.This is how we continue to keep our relationship fresh, always and hopefully forever.

You Give a little.....

On last week I was in the grocery store shopping and I made the comment to cashier, that I was getting some items to have a date night with my wife. The cashier mentioned how sweet that was and continued to ring up my groceries. But what interesting, was the lady in front of me, who heard our conversation. She asked what I would be watching and I responded, "Just a movie on Lifetime." The young lady was shocked, she informed me that her husband would never admit to watching Lifetime, and he would never mentioned the word, Lifetime. Here is my point, I don't watch Lifetime because I enjoy it. I watch it because my wife enjoys it. Just as she watches sports with me. There are times in each relationship where you make sacrifices for the benefit of the other. Just as the old saying goes," You must give a little, to get a little". This is how it works in relationships.